Chastity and Online D/s

I attended a discussion yesterday that began as an open-forum talk-about-what-you-want munch and resulted in a very interesting discussion about chastity.  I asked the question, "did anybody attend the chastity discussion of the night before which I was forced to miss" because I am interested in what the general D/s community public has to say on the matter.  Sadly (to me), the answer came back that the discussion I missed had actually been all about sexual stimulation.  Orgasm control and such things -- which I do not regard with any critical view as "chastity."  So then I asked the question, do you think discussions of chastity would go over well in this community?  The answer was a resounding yes!

Apparently there is, in fact, a growing trend of submissives in Second Life who, like me, don't throw it all about, as it were.  In fact, the idea of holding oneself "in trust" for one's eventual Master or Mistress is more common than I'd thought!  And even then, there is also a growing trend of chastity within an established relationship.  Submissives who have chosen a dominant may still, in the online world of Second Life, require "no sex" as a limit.  She is still a rare bird, she is, who will enforce that kind of limit.  However, it's not unheard of, and I regard it as a very sensible thing to do for many reasons (common-sense reasons that many security professionals have already imparted all over the internet).

Submission is not simply a sexual service.  And, if a dominant has his eye on a particular submissive who has proven that she is disciplined with her body and her mind and her endeavours, that is an attractive bird indeed, is she not?  If I were a dom looking for a submissive girl, I would want one who demonstrates that she is not a crawling, whimpering mess of appetites.  Even for the very simple reason that such a bird doesn't tend to carry a lot of baggage a dom will have to deal with.  And I have baggage issues, so that is why the no-baggage idea is so attractive to me.  Anyway.  Moving along.

Submission is not simply a sexual service.  Vulnerability of submission implies naked, bare, stripped, transparent and raw presentation -- and that is what a lot of my photography aims to capture in fact.  Without necessarily capturing a sexual experience, if that makes sense.  Gender, yes.  Vulnerable, yes.  Sexual, not necessarily.  I, myself, explore the idea of submission in a chaste way.  At first, I thought I was alone in the world -- but now I realize there is at least one other person (and maybe ten!) who believe in this method.

Submission is not simply a sexual service.  I am, however, obligated to further contextualize the adorable  part of that discussion, and it's as good a punch-line as any.  It does, I'm afraid, slightly burst the bubble that I have admired for the duration of this post.  In an admittedly adorable way.  But I don't mind -- at least I've started the conversation.  So, here it is:  when I asked the question about whether or not discussions about actual chastity would be a good idea (and keep in mind, my question is whether DISCUSSIONS would be a good idea, not whether chastity would be a good idea), a very good-looking and articulate man in attendance immediately offered the comment, "I would really like to encourage this idea of chastity, this way of thinking, yes, a very good line of inquiry."  And suddenly, all the girls present were like, "Oh I'm chaste.  Oh yes me too.  Oh I have been for a long time.  Oh totally chaste.  Me too, Me too!  I still have orgasms but I'm chaste.  Oh yes you have to have SOME orgasms, but yes otherwise very chaste."  Et cetera.

Well, whatever it takes, my sisters.  Whatever it takes.  So there you have it: there is (now) a growing trend towards chaste living in the online D/s community in Second Life.